Pain in inevitable but suffering is optional...a Buddhist truth passed on through the ages. Not sure I can distinguish between the two...when a grief wave hits. When it hits I feel the deepest most intense pain suffering & sorrow... I am somewhat paralyzed. What I do know is that pain/suffering move like waves. Sometimes they knock you over and sometimes they move more gently across your body and mind. Watching a loved one die these last few months was often beyond what I tho